A Pocket Handbook for Domination

an overview designed for the modern man

Congratulations on choosing domination as your path to personal growth!

This comprehensive guide will help you maximize your impact while minimizing irritating feelings of empathy or connection. Real men don't feel—they dominate.

Step 1: Target Selection

Choose wisely. The best targets remind you of someone who hurt you—maybe your father who beat you up in order to make you tough, or your mother who never let you play like you wanted to. Maybe the kids who mocked your stutter. Children work especially well since they haven't developed strong boundaries. Bonus points if they trust you.

Pay special attention to anyone who:

• Shows vulnerability (a clear sign of weakness)

• Reminds you of your mother (especially if she abandoned you)

• Seems happy (they probably need to learn life's hard lessons)

• Makes you feel small inside (dominate them before they dominate you)

Step 2: Essential Preparation

Before dominating others, master these fundamental skills:

• Close your heart completely (half-closed hearts leak compassion)

• Forget your own experiences of being dominated (those memories might generate unwanted empathy)

• Focus exclusively on your own comfort and convenience

• Dismiss any bodily sensations of discomfort as weakness

• Practice blame-shifting ("You made me do this")

• Perfect your victim stance ("I had no choice")

Step 3: Understand the True Source of your Power

True power comes from making others obey, and punishing those who act independently.

If someone's disobedience threatens your sense of control, you're on the right track. Signs you're achieving peak dominance:

• Your self-worth fluctuates based on others' compliance

• You feel powerful only when someone else feels small

• Your authority requires constant reinforcement through threats

• You experience panic when others think, speak, and act independently

• You need to remind everyone who's in charge

Step 4: Master Blame Technology

Advanced domination requires sophisticated blame deployment:

• "Look what you made me do"

• "If you hadn't X, I wouldn't have had to [dominate]"

• "This hurts me more than it hurts you"

• "I'm doing this for your own good"

• "You brought this on yourself"

• "Why do you make me so angry?"

Step 5: Physical Indicators of Domination Readiness

When the urge to dominate arises, check for these promising signs:

• Chest constriction (your heart trying to protect itself)

• Involuntary fist clenching (stored aggression ready for release)

• Trembling with unexpressed rage (childhood wounds activating)

• Tunnel vision (helpful for avoiding empathy)

• Racing heartbeat (your body preparing to fight imagined threats)

• Sensation of smallness (prime time to make someone else feel small)

These bodily sensations indicate you're perfectly primed to perpetuate the cycle of dominance that shaped you.

Step 6: Advanced Techniques

For maximum impact:

• Criticize others exactly how you were criticized

• Use the same tone your father used when he was angry

• Repeat phrases that wounded you as a child

• Become what you most feared

• Turn your shame into others' pain

• Transform your powerlessness into false power

Step 7: Maintaining Your Edge

To sustain effective domination:

• Never apologize (it shows weakness)

• Deny all vulnerability (it might humanize you)

• Gaslight to resolve conflicts (someone else is the crazy one)

• Suppress emotional awareness (feelings compromise dominance)

• Reject feedback (other perspectives threaten control)

• Isolate yourself (connection weakens resolve)

• Break spirits systematically (wounded people are easier to control)

Warning Signs to Watch For:

• Sudden waves of grief

• Unexpected empathy

• Recognition of your own pain in others

• Desire for genuine connection

• Awareness of your impact

• Feelings of remorse or responsibility

If you experience any of these symptoms, immediately suppress them by dominating someone weaker than you. Emotions are for the weak, and you're committed to strength through dominance.

Bonus Section: Toxic Masculinity Maintenance

To uphold proper standards:

• Ridicule any sign of sensitivity in others

• Mock emotional expression

• Shame vulnerability

• Celebrate aggression

• Measure worth through domination

• Teach your kids that real men control

• If it threatens you, deny its existence

Please remember: true dominance requires complete disconnection from your heart, body, and humanity.

With dedication and practice, you too can become what hurt you most.

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Hey y’all.

If you’re still with me, thanks for going there with me for a minute.

The cultural conversation around men and masculinity is mad right now. I get it. Women are furious and exhausted of doing 100x the work, tracking 100x the things, while their male counterparts—whether out of blind entitlement, incompetence, or simply trying to fill the pain-hole—double down at the highest levels of power, taking, taking, taking.

I’ve spoken about the idea that in order for healing to happen around trauma, the shadow needs the light of our awareness. The wretched beast needs to come out the dark. It needs to be seen, witnessed, welcomed, even loved. Some would say that it needs to die, so the rest of us can move on.

Whether in psychedelic ceremony space, men’s circle, or in politics, meeting the shadow is often a hard, ugly moment. Sometimes feels like the world will end because the shadows are stomping about like toddlers, cackling and destroying everything that offers us a sense of goodness or security—including our illusions.

All I know is this, an uncomfortable truth: that which is happening out there is a reflection of what’s within us.

As without, so within.

Each of us is capable of doing what the soldier boys in Israel are doing to Palestinians, or what DT is trying to do to everyone in the US except for white males. Each of us is capable of dehumanizing others, and dissociating from our humanity in order to bolster our delusion of superiority.

It is within us because we have been taught in subtle and overt ways for many many many generations. Violence is in our blood, as men. When we deny it, it shrinks into the shadows, becomes the wretched beast, and slips out sideways like a toxic green sludge that can stick to our kids’ DNA.

But it doesn’t have to. It actually can end with you. Listen to your heartbeat, to the blood flowing through your body. You may have inherited violence, but you have choice here.

As within, so without: your choices, actions, and devoted practice to heart-centered awareness, clarity, compassion, and curiosity creates a path for other men to follow.

There are no more important or less important times to devote yourself to being the kind of man and the kind of human that, deep down, you know you are. But sometimes the stakes seem higher.

Your practice does not just create change in your own life and relationships. It creates neural pathways in the brain which, over time, transform how future humans might relate to the world, and how they treat it.

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Practice

Here are a few practices for this week:

• Ground yourself. Feel all the places your body is making contact—with the earth, your clothing, the air. Big, deep breaths. Relax your face, your heart, and your pelvic floor. Now close your eyes and stand on one foot.

  • If you tip over, try it a few times. Pay attention to the micro-movements in your foot on the floor that keep you balanced and upright. Notice how automatic they are. You’re not thinking about every little twitch. But collectively, they’re working to hold you up in the world.

• Set yourself up for small practices throughout the day, without expectation of acknowledgement. These are for you. Pick up the clothes off the floor; wash the dishes in the sink. Wipe the bathroom counter. Thank your partner for cooking, walking the dog.

  • On the road, let the other driver go.

  • Put down your phone in the car, and be with the quiet.

    
    Notice which practices help you feel more purposeful, more alive, and do them often, even when you had a shitty night of sleep.

Watch your life change. Because, for real: true power lies in your own body, not in relationship with others.

Learn to trust yourself to stand and hold your center even when it feels like everything is falling apart around you. When there’s nothing to grab onto and feels like you can’t trust anything or anyone, feel the earth holding you up and the sky holding you down.

Learn to listen to the women and their anger without taking it personally. Ask questions. Get curious about her experience, ask for more details, more feeling, more expression. Breathe it in, and out, and feel it all.

And keep feeling that earth beneath you.

Blessings,

Sean